Does Everything Really Happen for a Reason?

Does everything really happen for a reason?

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We hear it all the time, that catch-all spiritual cliché that’s supposed to provide consolation when things go terribly wrong in our lives: “I know it sucks that your home just went up in flames, but everything happens for a reason, and things will work out in the end.” “Sorry you got fired, but you know that everything happens for a reason and for your highest good .” “I know you don’t see this illness as a positive right now, but…” When we hear this, we just nod in agreement because we think we’re supposed to (Even if we’re really thinking, “Hmmm yeah, so what’s your point?”). After all, we’re spiritually conscious people and it seems to be part of the job description to accept these words as unquestionable fact. But are they, and if so, why?

If you have read my blog before, I’m sure you have figured out that I like to get to the bottom of things. Spiritual concepts need to make complete sense to us or else they lose their healing, transformative power. So let’s figure this out together. Does everything really happen for a reason?

When our well-meaning friends and relatives blurt out the phrase in question, their intention is to help us find closure and acceptance. They’re definitely on the right track, because acceptance of any situation brings inner peace, relief, healing, and the ability to move on, and that is exactly the outcome we want. But the main problem I have with this statement is how ambiguous and empty it is on its own. Most people take the words to mean that even though things may suck right now, you will be better off in the end, even if right now you can’t imagine how. Of course we would like to believe this, but in the face of crippling tragedy or terminal illness, how much do these tired words really help? To be of any real use, the statement in question needs to be redefined and explained.

Let me offer a more helpful, more meaningful statement:

Everything that happens is part of your spiritual path to self-discovery

When unwelcome things happen to us, it really helps to remind ourselves of the big picture. We are eternal spiritual beings, and our physical lives are temporary chapters, the details of which will soon be forgotten. Only the lessons learned will remain in our essence. Only the loving connections we made with others will endure. We are here to learn who we really are, and everything that happens is but an opportunity to awaken more to our true identity.

So does everything really happen for a reason? Well, yes, but not really in the way we usually think. Things do not necessarily conspire so that if we get fired today it is because our dream job awaits just around the corner. When something unwelcome happens, we may never see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we envision. Instead, what is really happening is our gradual, often painful awakening to who we really are.

The fact is that bad things are going to happen in our lives and there is just no way around that. At one point or another, our plans will fail, our concepts of how things should be will be disappointed, and tragedies will happen. Eventually, we will lose our youth and our good looks. We will lose our health, we will lose our loved ones, and in the end, we will lose it all in death. We cannot prevent these things from happening, but what we can do is change the way we interpret what happens.

What happens to you doesn’t really matter. Only how you interpret it matters.

When things are taken away from you – your possessions, your health, your wealth, your current identity – the clue is always the same: You are not these temporary, arbitrary things. In those agonizing experiences lie incredibly rewarding opportunities to know that what you really are is undiminished and untarnished no matter what may happen in this temporary setting.

But our lessons do not always have to be painful. When we witness an act of true love and it stirs something within us, we are remembering who we really are. When we establish a deep bond with someone that transcends our physical deaths, we are awakening to our true self. When we feel deep reverence for life in all its forms, we are discovering our true essence.

The true, lasting happiness and inner peace we all long for requires that we be OK no matter what happens in our lives. The only way is to awaken from the dream and see all this as what it really is: a temporary drama that cannot possibly harm your true eternal spiritual identity.

We are here to discover who we really are, and it is only in this discovery that we can find the absolute safety and well-being our souls long for. This discovery is enlightenment, the deep awareness that we are all eternally safe, unconditionally worthy, infinitely lovable, completely connected, and that everything is exactly as it needs to be. So yes, everything does indeed happen for a reason. Everything is trying to show us how magnificent we really are, and all we need to do is open our eyes and embrace the awesome truth.

The Truth will set you free, and every single event in our lives is a piece of the puzzle that leads us ever closer to that Truth. In my internationally bestselling book, The Magnificent Truths of Our Existence, I lead you, step by step, to the discovery of your own true, magnificent self. Click here to receive great bonus gifts to go along with your purchase.

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Thanks for checking in, and may these truths bring you the perfect happiness, love and inner peace that you so rightfully deserve.

Daniel Parmeggiani

November 11, 2014

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DANIEL F. Parmeggiani

DANIEL F. Parmeggiani

Daniel Parmeggiani is a modern-day spiritual teacher whose approach is unaligned with any particular religion or tradition. Driven by intense psychological turmoil, Daniel discovered within himself a deeper reality that not only saved his life, it also showed him the way to permanent happiness and inner peace. Daniel believes it is his mission to share these magnificent, healing truths with the world. He lives in Pompano Beach, Florida, with his wife, Susan, and their dog, Chewy. Read More


9 thoughts on “Does everything really happen for a reason?”

  • Dan, I really think you will enjoy my blog. Seems I am understanding Truth as you are. And it is all based on my Life and my Inner Guidance. I am also buying your book.
    Love, Amy <3

    1. That’s awesome Amy, and I also enjoyed your blog, where you do such a good job blending art with inspirational words. Keep up the great work ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Truth be told, people do not do anything they are not intrinsically interspersed in doing. So anytime anyone has to be convinced of something, they are not interested. The only thing that motivates people to reconnect with their souls is negative motivation. Damnation, hellfire, consequences. Otherwise, everyone is doing exactly what they want to be doing right now. The consequences, or suffering, just have to be intense enough for them to decide to stop. People,here operate as minds disconnected intentionally from their souls. They cannot have their minds changed because they are doing what they want with a determination that overcomes any discomfort of,their soul at the moment. People who do resonate with the positive ar already positive and are already acting in accordance with their soul. Positive people don’t always fully accept intentional negativity by others. They assume the others are acting out of unawareness. But the soul is always in charge and people are always aware, at the level that causes the action, of what they are doing, We all already know the answers about how things work. But we do not know people minds and their scheming intent in every interaction.

  • Loved your blog on cause and effect and Karma, I have always believed goverments never look at the cause of social problems they try to put things back from the middle and it never works because they did not start from the cause, so thank you for giving me ideas to continue with.

    1. Mary yes, sadly our leaders always seek out the band-aid approach and hope it holds up until re-election! Thank you for your interesting perspective.

  • You almost had me!… as I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. But you’re right, everything that happens is part of the path to self-discovery. It’s interesting because I always believed that everything happens for a reason, half heartedly, when things were good in my life (my younger days). It wasn’t until I hit a real failure point in my life, a season of darkness, pain and struggle that I truly awakened to the journey. One that I refer to as a journey of intentional self growth. Not awakened as in I all of a sudden understand and get it it all, but awakened to the fact that there is more. That maybe this life I am living isn’t about keeping up with society’s path that lays out for us, but, maybe there’s something more to this life that’s already within me. Maybe my purpose is to discover my truth and who I am. This awakening for me widened my peripherals and lens in which I view the world. This awakening shifted my entire mindset. This curiosity grew and grew as I started writing, journalling and meditating. All of these intentional actions towards self growth have forever changed my life. I still travel through good seasons and dark seasons, it’s part of the journey that will never go away. But, the fact that I am now mindfully equipped to embrace the dark in knowing that it’s only temporary and that if I lean into the dark wholeheartedly, there’s inner peace and joy and most of all, additional self discovery and growth awaiting on the other side. That’s the motivation for me when feeling trapped in those dark periods. The liberation that awaits when you lean into the struggle. What I’ve noticed though is that it takes intentional actions every single day to exercise the mindful muscle. It must be part of our everyday habits; writing, meditating, journalling. Whatever actions bring about the curiosity of the world around us, but most importantly, our inner worlds. I notice when I don’t write or journal or meditate. The space between stimulus and response closes. Instead I begin reacting. The ego grows in strength. Absolutely LOVE this piece if you couldn’t already tell by this response. I think what’s lacking in most of us is the desire and commitment to take care of ourselves first; spiritually, emotionally and physically. This intentional effort on a daily basis transcends into our outer world creating a rippling affect on others. Love the piece. Thanks so much!

    1. Hi Eric, and thank you for sharing! Whether they know it or not, we are all evolving spiritually. After all, we are spiritual beings and our essence longs for spiritual actualization. Most people today evolve slowly, almost imperceptibly, and mostly unconsciously. You, however, have joined the small percentage who have become aware of our true purpose and have begun your CONSCIOUS spiritual path. Congratulations! When your conscious intentions are aligned with the divine plan on a daily basis, you will be amazed at the progress you will continue to make. Many blessings on your path ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Thank you for this wonderful reminder to be more conscious in my daily actions. I find this to be most difficult when I’m unhappy, which is of course when I need it the most.

    1. You’re most welcome Lisa! It is during hard times that we need to be most mindful of the bigger picture and of what truly matters ๐Ÿ™‚

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